I have been reflecting on an insight that I would like to share with you.
And for that, I need to give a bit of a background story.

In 2022, my partner and I decided to go to Portugal, for a little trip.

We went up north to meet part of my family, at my dad's hometown. A place that I did not visit for almost 10 years.

It was strangely beautiful how everything kind of remained the same as I recall.

As I walked around, little pieces of the past came to surface.

The tiles on the floor reminded me of the summers I had spent playing cards and checkers on the floor with my siblings; The olive trees still carry the memories of us collecting olives throughout the years; The old oven reminded me the smell of freshly baked bread with pieces of chorizo; In the now empty fields I can still see the image of me as a child laying down eating the sweetest oranges I ever had, in between the wheat that was taller than me and I swear I can still see my deceased grandfather screaming at us for playing in between the veggie garden.

That land carried more memories than I can recall.

My father showed me something that I do not remember noticing - my grandmother's flowers.

At that time, I was studying transgenerational trauma, how we inherit pain and the traumatic stories that belonged to our ancestors. And to be honest, my trip there was driven by the desire to find more about my family and the pain and trauma I might have inherited.

Those roses felt to me like a gift from my grandmother, the woman that handled so much violence and neglect throughout her life. A pattern that carries on through both sides of my family.

Those roses reminded me that trauma is not the only thing we inherit from our ancestors.

Oftentimes, we tend to focus on the trauma side of life, forgetting there is more to life than the painful stories of our bodies.

Whenever we look at trauma, we also look at what is called the healing vortex.

Every time trauma happens, a healing vortex is created.

In it we find all the resources that we need to resolve that same trauma: a wave of strength, a strong sense of resilience, a drop of hope, an unshakable faith, a bash of gratitude, each person will have their set of resources ready to be used.

Those roses were a manifestation of a healing vortex.

They showed me that I did not only inherit the patterns of struggle in my family, but also the resilience, the strength, the faith, the softness and perseverance that my ancestors carried with them.

In that moment, I understood that to continue my journey on trauma resolution, and bring people with me, I needed to be a bit more like those roses. Soft, gracious if you will, and still resilient and so damn strong. I needed to keep being reminded that it is not only about trauma, there is more to it. And since then, I surround myself with roses and flowers to remind me of that. Now you know why I spread roses around.🌹

The roses remind me of the qualities that the women of my family carried with them. I now understand that I no longer need to feel pity for the stories of the women before me and look for the signs of trauma. I now can look for the signs of the healing vortex, the strength, the faith and the resilience, a set of qualities that I can always call upon.

I can be in the world proud of all my ancestors, men and women before me, that enabled me to exist in this very moment, no matter what stories they have carried in their bodies.

And now I am curious, can you see the signs of the healing vortex when you  reflect on your ancestors’ stories? Can you feel the strength, the resilience, the perseverance, the hope, the faith that you have inherited from them?

In the end, it is not only about trauma.

Podcast Inspiration:
I have been sending this this podcast episode from The Diary of a CEO to friends and clients. In this episode Dr. Mindy Pelz talks about the magic of fasting, women’s health, men’s health, diet, hormones and so much more. Truly inspiring what our bodies can do, I love it!

Music:
I am in love with this song since day one and I think you will be too :)

Series:
The first time I heard about the Blue Zones was in 2018 when I started my training as a Holistic Health Coach. I was very please to find out the finds of Dan Buettner made it to the Netflix. This is a very inspiring and exciting series to watch in the coziness of your home.

Books:
I have heard countless times that every woman should read “Women Who Run With The Wolves” from Clarissa Pinkola Estés. I have been reading it and I couldn’t AGREE more!

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